The annoying bits of Motherhood

Its the weirdest thing you become a mother any everyone has an opinion about what your doing and how your supposed to do it. It starts with how you had your birth natural vs cesarian to breastfeed vs bottle feeding, paid childcare vs little ones staying at home. 

Lets not start with the ‘status’ buggy with the matching on trend baby bag. But once you have your little one or ones in my case. You realise quickly that all the crap you may have worried about before you gave birth doesn’t matter. The buggy doesn’t even matter if you can’t get the energy to even get out of the house. Or the trendy bag doesn’t magically make your wet wipes appear once you have left them at home and your little one decides to do the biggest poo.

But what seems to be a constant is every women and sometimes men that had children before you have something to say. Now helpful advice from a loving place is always welcomed. But the condescending, you should listen to me. Also the one that most really gets under my skin is the notion that I should be completed by the fact that I am now a mother. So all my hopes and ambitions before I had my daughters go where exactly? Or the only fun I can find is in a baby soft play watching my girls throw balls around. I have been asked on a night out music blarring ‘omg you have twins. How are they? Where are they?’ Ummmm they are not here in this club with me now. Like RALLY?!

Growing up i wasn’t partially fussed about if I had children or not. I never dreamed of the 2.5 kids and a dog. I always dreamt of the ways I wanted to explore the world and try different things. I still have these dreams and look forward to being able to share some of them with my girls. The reason being is some places I will be going without them. Yes I said it. I am dreaming up short breaks without my daughters. I am blessed to have a amazing support systems and my girls LOVE their grandparents. Guess what mothers and fathers deserve a break and I am in the blessed predicament that I can. So I will. Another point is I won’t feel guilty about it either or made to feel guilty. Will I miss my daughters of course. I will be a better mother when I am fully rested and slot in a little time just to be Georgia x

So mamas how do you get your break?

About the author

Georgia is a mother who has decided to live out loud after motherhood took the wind out of her! From finding out she was going to be a mother of twins, then them being born at 27 weeks (two and a half months early), it was a rollercoaster but sharing the whole experience on platforms such as Make Motherhood Diverse has reminded her that she wasn’t alone despite not feeling included in the mainstream vision of motherhood.
Georgia regularly shares the realities of being a mother of twins on her Instagram page while still craving her own piece of the world. It’s a mixture of meltdowns and giggles and Black British Motherhood in all its glory.
Georgia has a background in beauty as a qualified make-up artist and eyelash technician. She ran a beauty business providing pamper treatments for private and corporate clients, and has also worked on a multitude of events including influencers book launches for Zoella and Tanya Burr, and brands such as Wilko and Pixi beauty. Despite her love for beauty, she is fully aware of the lack of diversity and poorly executed campaigns when brands want to appear diverse.

Georgia is a confident communicator and loves to chat about all things motherhood, womanhood and diversity (or the lack thereof) in the media and beauty world, all from a Black British Londoner perspective.

Feel free to contact Georgia via the contact page.

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